Why you are afraid of success.

You’re ready to get more out of life than just a job that bores you, colleagues you hate (and who also hate you, by the way) and always the same milf on pornhub? You are ready for success? The sad news first: You’ll never achieve success if you just wait for it, even if you feel pretty well prepared.

What makes you think your life is just going to change? That some supernatural force will choose you to rain millions from the sky. Why should your dream woman, of all people, suddenly stand in front of your apartment and ring the doorbell? Oh, tomorrow, as if by magic, a strange number will call your phone and finally offer you the job you’ve been dreaming of for so long. Because I mean — it’s clear, you’re just waiting for it. You’re ready. You’ve prepared yourself. After all, you’ve been waiting for quite a while. Are consciously here where you are now — because you are ready for success.

How many smart, great, talented people have I met in my life who said “oh, when such and such happens, I’ll be ready”, “once I get there (or have this or that), everything will be better”, “something will happen or someone will come along”. None of these people are doing better now. They continue to do a job they hate, are with a partner they can’t stand, and so on.

Now the good news: you’re already several steps ahead of the rest of the population who hate their lives.

Because, you know that you need something different, that you want something different, and that your status quo is not going to help you achieve happiness and success. So, you’re aware that something needs to change.

Congratulations! You have already gone through a long process of self-discovery, searching for ideas or self-knowledge and at least you know in which direction your life should develop.

Now, why unfortunately nothing has changed in your life so far — It’s actually quite simple: You are afraid of success. Yeah, no shit! You are afraid of what will happen when you are successful. Afraid of the responsibility you’ll have to live up to in your new job. Afraid that your pickup line with the beautiful woman at the bus stop will be successful — Oh shit — you’ d have to go out to dinner with her then, right?

You’re afraid of the consequences of success.

“What if my business fails and I lose all the money?” “What if I find my soulmate and then he cheats on me?” Fear is a crappy emotion, and it’s supposed to be. I mean, hey, our ancestors certainly didn’t run away laughing and dancing from a saber-toothed tiger. And would you put your feet up if a gloomy figure came at you in a poorly lit alley and the first thing that rose up was a feeling of happiness? No, it’s okay that fear feels really shitty because it’s important for our survival. We all have it and we all have to deal with it.

But in 21st century times, fear doesn’t always help us achieve our goals. Many of the primeval survival and conflict mechanisms we don’t even need anymore, because we have created a very comfortable life for ourselves. Fear is demonized, you are a “chicken” if you don’t dare to do anything, no real man or your girls laugh at you what a “pussy” you are.

So what happens is: deep down in your subconscious, you don’t want to feel like a chicken and a pussy and have to deal with this blatant feeling of fear. In fact, to overcome fear, you always have to admit it to yourself first. And this is something your very vulnerable ego and subconscious can’t allow. So it creates a parallel world in which fear is completely blanked out and you never have to deal with it.

Your subconscious is a pretty smart motherfucker

So slowly it may dawn on you what parallel world your subconscious is creating here. Correct — it is the parallel world in which you wait passively for your life to change for the better without your intervention. Because your subconscious is a pretty smart motherfucker — it knows exactly that you will never succeed this way and as a consequence you will never have to be afraid.

My suggestion: give your subconscious a big fat middle finger and embrace the fear. Embrace the uncertainty that you don’t know what will happen if you go your way or if you change something. Embrace the uncertainty when you dare and when you actively strive for success and align all your actions with it.

As soon as you start and stop waiting, a positive, warm feeling will spread in your belly and you will face the risks with a smile, because you have already won the first victory — the victory against your stone-age scaredy-cat subconscious. You’ll know that success is now no longer just a dream you’re waiting for in front of your Playstation, but now has a very real chance of becoming part of your life.

Give your subconscious a big fat middle finger and embrace fear on the road to success.